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Five Books for a Changed Life Pt. 3

Recent reads with insightful content and powerful personal impact

Time to continue our series on life-changing books.  Looking for suggestions as to what to read?  This is the third post in my five-part series about some of the most impactful books that I have recently read.  I’m passing along some suggestions for your reading list or book-giving list.   The books are of different kinds, but all of them will motivate positive change in your life and in your Christian discipleship as they have done in mine.    

  • Maxwell, John C. The 15 Invaluable Laws of Growth: Live Them and Reach Your Potential. Center Street, 2012.
  • Weissenbacher, Alan. The Brain Change Program: 6 Steps to Renew Your Mind and Transform Your Life. Broad Street, 2024.
  • Groeschel, Craig. Divine Direction: 7 Decisions That Will Change Your Life. Zondervan, 2017.
  • Caine, Christine. You Are Not Finished Yet: Discovering Your Purpose in the Midst of Life’s Interruptions. Thomas Nelson, 2023.
  • Geisler, Norman L., and Frank Turek. I Don’t Have Enough Faith to Be an Atheist. Crossway, 2004.

Divine Direction: 7 Decisions That Will Change Your Life.

This is another eminently practical book that helps motivate us and gives us practical insights into how to navigate life.  Craig Groeschel and his wife Amy founded Life-Church which has grown into a large network of churches.  He is the author of several New York Times best-selling books, including, Winning the War in Your Mind; Change Your Thinking, Change Your Life;  Lead Like It Matters;  and The Benefit of Doubt. 

Divine Direction begins by helping us to get in touch with the story that we all hope to write – but not just from our perspective!  We are to seek in prayer to sense what God wants for us.  Then once we have our direction in mind, the rest of the book helps us with very simple and practical tips about the choices that will help us get there.

 How to begin

“If you want to take aim at the story you want to tell, you have to make small, life changing choices and then act on them daily. The best decision you can make is always the next one” (Page 14). “It’s the small choices no one sees that result in the big impact everyone wants” (Page 15).

In an unusual move, typical of the simple thrust of the book, each chapter title is a single word, an action verb.  The first chapter is “Start.”   “After you have a sense of what God wants you to want, where do you begin? What discipline do you need to start practicing to head toward where God wants you to get?” (Page 40).

Chapter two is a surprise with the title “Stop.”  In order to get something happening that is not currently, we will need to make room in our lives.  So, we need to ask another necessary question which we often neglect. “Based on what God wants you to want, what does God want you to stop?” (Page 64).

How to keep going

Yet, on the way to any goal, there are setbacks and times when one feels like there is no progress.  “If you are tempted to walk away, make sure to seek God, because you never know what he might do if you have the courage to stay.”(Page 87).  Chapter three titled “Stay” closes with the amazing story of Bobby Gruenewald, inventor of YouVersion App.   Bobby started and sold two technology companies before he graduated from college.  He started volunteering at his church in his mid-twenties and they put him on staff.   His pastor labeled his work as “extraordinary,” but Bobby felt he wasn’t making a difference and was tempted to quit.  But he persevered in God’s work and became the inventor of YouVersion Bible App which the church sponsored.  

Chapter four titled “Go” is the motivational chapter we expected at the beginning.  But even so, it has some surprising nuggets of wisdom.  “Even if you don’t feel like anything is different right at this moment, it’s always a good idea to keep your heart prepared for change.  Because it happens to us all: a new step of faith, a new venture, a new opportunity” (p. 96).  Or this memo, “To step into your destiny, you might have to step away from your security” (p. 97).

Why keep going?

Chapter 5 called “Serve” is a great reminder of our ultimate mission.  “We forget that we are not made to be spiritual consumers.  God has called us to be spiritual contributors.  And the church does not exist for us.  We are the church, and we exist for the world” (p. 128).  That kind of thinking is why Rev. Groeschel’s church is changing the world!

Connection with others is the topic of chapter six.  “When you decide to connect with people, you change the story you will tell one day” (p. 150).   Other people influence us and we influence them as well.  “Everyone needs a friend who makes them better” (p. 153).

All this sounds great, but we are often fearful and hold back.  We know what is needed but sense that the journey will be too much for us.  In chapter 7 called “Trust” our author agrees that sometimes life will be more than we can handle, but he points the way in our dilemma.  It is in exactly such times that we must trust in God to help us through.  God still whispers to us as He did to Paul “My grace is sufficient for you, for my power is made perfect in weakness” (2 Cor. 12:9,10).

I highly recommend this book 

It is filled with touching life stories to help us understand.  And its advice is eminently practical.  It is clear the author lives the message of the book and so is well qualified to help us on our journeys.  The writing is succinct and easy to read too.       

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Thinking Ahead

This is a powerful article for today. The questions near the end could be used to help the thinking of every church leader and church council/board/session. We are coming to a major transition period when the current restrictions end. It is an unprecedented opportunity for positive adaptation to the true needs of our culture.

outreachmagazine.com/interviews/54136-the-future-is-now.html

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Appointed for a Seventh Year

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Great article on the current state of the United Methodist church

Here is a link to one of the best articles I have seen analyzing the historical and current situation in the United Methodist church. It is well worth reading. Chaplain Philips has both the wisdom of a long time United Methodist and the slight detachment and broad perspective provided by his years in the military chaplaincy.

Dr. Bob Philips article

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A Blogging Milestone

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A New Name for my Blog

Today we have lots of knowledge and many experiences but little wisdom.   That is a poverty!
Today we have lots of knowledge and many experiences but little wisdom. That is a poverty!

Sometimes when I see one of those big flashing arrow signs on the highway pointing to a lane closure or a detour, I reflect on how we might wish that life came with flashing directional signals that we could not miss.  I know I have needed such a thing more than once.   But life does not, and so many people lose their way amid the maze of decisions, circumstances and pressures that face people every day.  I remember when I first felt called to become a pastor, one who helps others along life’s road, one of the objectives in my mind was to be used of God in helping to teach people how to live wisely.  I hoped to help folks learn to make wise choices.  It’s a dangerous and slightly presumptuous undertaking because no matter how old or educated one is, one must undertake the task while very much a learner along the road.

 

The Good News is that one of the purposes of the Bible is to provide the principles to teach us how to live wisely.   Consider, for example, the stated purpose from the prologue of the book of Proverbs in the Old Testament.

For gaining wisdom and instruction;
for understanding words of insight;
For receiving instruction in prudent behavior,
doing what is right and just and fair;
For giving prudence to those who are simple,
knowledge and discretion to the young—
Let the wise listen and add to their learning,
and let the discerning get guidance— Prov 1:2-5  NIV 2011

In addition, God’s Holy Spirit has promised to guide Christ-followers in their journey.   So there is hope!

The Lord gives wisdom; from his mouth come knowledge and understanding.  Prov 2:6  NIV 2011

Recently, this focus on helping others live wisely has been impressed upon me again.   Accordingly, I have decided to change the title of my blog to: Learn to be Wise.  I hope that the change will accomplish several purposes.

  • It will help my blog focus more on wisdom for daily living. I want to write more in the wisdom category on my blog.
  • It will enlarge the blog’s appeal beyond those who normally look at the writings of pastors. This is an important factor in New England where fewer people have a relationship to a church that in upstate New York.
  • It aligns the title with the web address, an address chosen two years ago because we could not get one that looked like the old blog title. Could it be that God was already at work pointing in this direction?  I think so.

Of course, there will still be some family posts; that keeps the blog personal.   And there will still be some church-related posts; church gives me a great deal of context.   But overall, I trust the percentage of posts will shift toward practical comments on daily life and reflections that help us find wisdom for our daily choices.

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Liturgy of pastoral transition

A blessed day at church

What a wonderful pair of worship services this morning.  Attendance was high (211) and excitement was higher as we sang from hearts that needed the reminder; I Walk by Faith and worshipped our heavenly Father on Father’s Day with choruses and hymns.  I played trombone with the worship team so it was not a quiet morning.   I apologized to all the fathers for choosing Father’s day as my last Sunday.  And we did take time to honor the fathers present too.  One of the awesome moments was when the children and teens prayed for me.  What an absolute joy to see them advancing in discipleship too and to be blessed by their prayers.   At the end of second service, knowing that I am a fan of his organ playing, Richard Filmer played a special for us on the organ.  It was excellent.   At the end of both services, Larry Nemitz,  Vice Chairman of the LBA, and Pastor Eric who is succeeding me, and I read a liturgy of transition.  It is very rare in churches to see this happen.   Most of the time there is a span of time between the leaving of the old pastor and the coming of the new.    It was a highpoint as well.  I have always prayed that God would grant a good transition at the end of my tenure here.  I believe that prayer is definitely being answered.  I am including the liturgy we used here.

 

Liturgy for 2013 pastoral transition

Larry Nemitz:   This is a special moment in the history of our church.  We are profoundly thankful for what God has done through the ministry of Pastor Kelvin and JoAnne.    Pastor has led many to give testimony to their faith through Christian baptism as the Scripture instructs us.    He has encouraged our collective worship through regular administration of the sacrament of communion.    He has faithfully taught us from God’s Holy Word to love God, love others and make disciples.   And he has mentored us by personal example, small group instruction and public exhortation.    He has presided over moments of joy in our lives such as marriages and the naming of children and he has stood with us in times of trial and sorrow too.

Congregation:  We are deeply grateful to God for sending us Pastor Kelvin and JoAnne to be faithful stewards of their gifts in this place and to exercise well the role of congregational leadership among us.

Pastor Kelvin:  It has been my privilege and my joy to serve as your pastor, with God’s help, for these last 22 years.   You have been a blessing to us too.

Larry Nemitz:   While we are happy for you upon your retirement, we admit that it causes us grief to let you go away because we have learned to love you both.   Yet in the providence of God we know that for everything, there is a season.   By his grace, God has planned another chapter both for you and for us, which we are ready to enter into.    Yesterday at district conference Rev. Dr. Eric Paashaus was officially stationed as our pastor for the coming year.

Pastor Kelvin:  It has been my privilege to be a mentor to Pastor Eric and today it is a great joy to see him stepping into the role of leading pastor here at Community Wesleyan Church.  Eric, as symbols of the transfer of stewardship of Community Wesleyan Church, I offer three ordinary gifts.   One is a key to the front door of the church.  It is a multi-faceted symbol.  It reminds me that often the pastor’s contact with people is the front door to the family of God.  It reminds me also that the pastor is the one who is ultimately responsible to God for the welfare of the church.  Then second, I hand to you a Bible.  It is a reminder to you and to the congregation gathered here that at your ordination service a Bible was handed to you by the denomination’s leaders and you were commissioned to take authority to preach the word of God.  God is now giving you a great opportunity to fulfill that entrusting.    Finally, I give you a towel.  It is a symbol of the Biblical truth that Jesus taught us all that we are not here to be served but to serve.   This is one of the great secrets of a successful pastorate.

Pastor Eric:  It is with joy and with an awesome sense of responsibility that I accept your gifts.  It is a privilege for Magda and myself and our children to become the pastoral family at Community Wesleyan.  We covet your prayers.   We look forward with great anticipation to what God intents to do among us as we work together with God.  He is the same yesterday, today and forever!

Larry Nemitz:  On behalf of the local board and all of God’s people here, we welcome you as our pastor and pastoral family.   We look forward to laboring together in the kingdom of God.

Congregation:   We heartily welcome and accept you as our pastor and pastoral family.   God helping us, we will pray for you and listen carefully to the Word of God preached through you.  May God richly anoint you with his Spirit and guide you as you lead us in following Jesus.

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Downsizing a library

 

Books to give away to mentees
Books to give away to mentees

 

At this time in my life, as I get ready to move, and try to sort through the accumulations of 22 years living in one house, I’m reminded of the words of Ecclesiastes 3:1, 4-6 (NIV)

There is a time for everything, and a season for every activity under heaven: …

4 a time to weep and a time to laugh, a time to mourn and a time to dance,

5 a time to scatter stones and a time to gather them, a time to embrace and a time to refrain,

6 a time to search and a time to give up, a time to keep and a time to throw away…

This has been particularly obvious as the time has come for my wife and me to sort through our libraries.   While the parsonage that we are moving into may have more square footage than the current one, the amount of book space and office space may be less.  That is because my office will now be in the parsonage as opposed to having a separate office in the church.   In addition, there is the simple issue of weight. Movers charge by the weight of the shipment and books are heavy; so it is best to take only what you will need.  Furthermore, there is the whole issue of what is happening in our culture with regard to books; books you hold are slowly losing ground to electronic ones.   A few weeks ago we sorted out four or five boxes of used books from our home and took them to two used-book stores.  One bookstore owner sorted out a few and paid us about enough to buy one new paperback; the other did not want any.   So we donated the rest to the Salvation Army.   A great deal of this is due to the rise of electronic books.  As a result of these facts, my wife and I have set a goal to downsize our libraries by at least one third.    

How are we doing it?  Here are some guidelines we’ve used to achieve the goal.

  1. If I haven’t read it in all these years, is it going to make it to the top of my list anytime soon?  I’m giving away some brand new books because I felt the answer to that question was “no.”
  2. Is this a reference book that I do not need to use any more because I have access to the material in a program or on-line?   My Bible program has replaced several of my books, including at least one set.
  3. Will this book help one of those I have been mentoring more than it will help me?  If so, let it go. 
  4. Is this a book I do not need because by a combination of experience and material I have read, I have covered the material?  If so, I should let the book help someone else, even if it is one I have valued in the past. 
  5. Is this a book I have quoted often and will probably continue to cite?  If so I should keep it.
  6. Everyone has favorite authors.  I’m keeping almost all the books by my three or four favorite authors – John Maxwell, Jim Cymbala, E. Stanley Jones, Bruce Wilkinson.
  7. Is the book outdated?  Unless an older book is by a famous person, it will not be that useful to quote.   A few may be useful to read anyway.  They might be by someone else’s favorite author.
  8. Is the book a classic I wish to pass down in my family?    We don’t have many of these, but there are a few.

With these guidelines, I am getting it done, as the picture shows.  My mentees and church teachers will be able to choose from the sorted books before we figure out what to do with the rest.

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Plans for our remaining Sundays at Kirkville

The remaining weeks of our time here at Kirkville will be busy ones.  We have saved a few weeks vacation to help us have time to pack and visit our family in CT and western NY.   I am also doing some reading in preparation for my new part-time position at Copper Hill UMC.  You know what I always say, “If the leader is not growing, the people will not be growing either.”    This chart tells you when I will be preaching here and who will be preaching when I am not.   Thank you for your prayers during this time of transition.  I am praying for you too.

 

Community Wesleyan Service Plans May 5- June 16

  Special Day Speaker Message Scripture Other Events that Day
May  5 Missions Sunday Don & Cheri Floyd     4 PM  CLASS 201
May 12 Mother’s Day Pastor Eric  Jesus and the Problem  John 6:1-14  
May  19 Pentecost Sunday Pastor Kelvin Secrets of Spiritual Power Luke 3:21,33;  4:1-15 MBK Christian Unity Svc. 6 PM
May 26 Memorial Day Weekend Pastor Eric      
June 2   Larry Nemitz     4 PM  CLASS 301
June 9 Communion Sunday Pastor Kelvin How Shall we Live? 1 Thess. 3:11– 4:11; Titus 3:3-8 Retirement Dinner 3PM
June 16 Father’s Day Pastor Kelvin Be of Good Courage! Deut. 31:6 Reception following services
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A new assignment

My new assignment
My new assignment

 

Today it was announced at both churches that I have a new part-time pastorate in Connecticut starting in July after my retirement from full-time ministry here in Kirkville.   I will begin serving as the pastor at a very old and historic United Methodist Church at Copper Hill, Connecticut.   There is a very roomy parsonage that comes with the assignment where JoAnne and I will reside.   The parsonage is 10 or 12 minutes from the church and both are about 30 minutes from Keely and Mark and Sam.   

The sanctuary of the church is well preserved and was built in 1839—that’s four years before the Wesleyan Church was founded.   It was near the site of a famous camp-meeting grounds.   Like my home church in Haskinville, NY, it was built at a country crossroads.   However, today the hills and vales are thick with modern houses so there is a great opportunity for expanded ministry.   There is also a golf course across the street and a rails-to-trails trail a few hundred yards away as well. 

The best part was the warmth and genuine sense of ministry anticipation that we saw in the staff parish committee with whom we interviewed.    They made us feel very welcome and appreciated from the start.   I could sense the faithful perseverance in the Christian faith that has enabled the church to survive all these years.   I think they will be very receptive to our ministry there.   

This position for us is an answer to prayer.   We were looking for the good works prepared in advance for us to do after retirement.   This will be very meaningful without being too draining.   The economic boost will  help us to handle Connecticut costs as well.   So we are very thankful for this provision and looking forward to serving God together with the folks at Copper Hill.