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10 Ways to Handle Stress

We use ideas we gather to help us overcome stress.
We use ideas we gather to help us overcome stress.

As I interact with people today, I find that many are under pressure.   Frequently there are two jobs in the home and children needing attention as well.   Add to this the usual stresses of family finances, school situations,  health challenges,  and family sports schedules;  it’s stressful just to name it all.   Sometimes we need to find or review ideas as to how to handle stress.    Here is a helpful list of ten ideas that contains much wisdom.    Information like this helps us put into practice the advice of Proverbs 23:4 (NIV), “Do not wear yourself out to get rich!”   If you are not fond of the word “relax”  and some highly motivated people are not, may I suggest substituting the phrase “loosen up” in suggestion one and “calm down” in number six.

  1. Try to relax while working, driving or doing any activity, keeping alert at the same time. Check to see if your arms and legs are tense. Consciously relax them. Breathe deeply and say, “I am at peace,” or “Lord, be with me today,” as you prepare for some activity.
  2. Take time to “smell the flowers.” Delight in the ocean or a sunset, and really know what it is to be alive.
  3. Laugh at yourself and. with others. Enjoy humor without hurtful teasing.
  4. Don’t fret the small stuff! Ask yourself, “In all eternity, what will this matter?”
  5. Try to be realistic about time commitments, allowing more time for each activity rather than crowding too much in a day.
  6. Try not to be “anxious” or worry. Use your thought process to decide, “I am going to enjoy this day. I will be relaxed, knowing that God is always with me in whatever I am doing—in the little things as well as in the most important ones.”
  7. Try to start each day with God, using a devotional reading together or separately. “Wait on the Lord.” “Be still.” “Lift your eyes unto the hills” (the sky, the clouds). Possibly start writing your “thought-feel­ings” for a few minutes, and then leave any concerns with God.
  8. Be at peace at the end of the day, forgiving each other and other peo­ple. Lay aside guilt. Place all concerns with God. Hold hands together and say a simple prayer before getting in bed, such as: “Thank you, Lord, for this day, for our lives together, and for your love and ours.”
  9. Deal with juggling and stress creatively. Try different methods.
  10. Accept yourself as God’s creation.

(From Do-it-Yourself Marriage Enrichment   by Warren and Mary Ebinger pp. 34,35)

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How is God at Work?

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Christmas Decorations Can Tell Your Story

I’ve been working on a Christmas post in a new program called Sway.  Here’s my first try. (Looks like you need to scroll to see it all. )

I think you’ll enjoy it.

 

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Alcohol is still the most dangerous drug

I saw this news article and was surprised to learn that deaths from alcohol misuse, not counting traffic and assault related ones, are still greater than for heroin and cocaine, even with the recent alarming increase in deaths from these later drugs.   Here’s the link to the article.

http://www.buffalonews.com/news-wire-services/americans-drinking-themselves-to-death-at-an-ever-spiraling-rate-20151223

 

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The Vision of Peace is to be Pursued

The Christmas Angels announced God's vision of Peace of earth.

“Peace on earth…”

This morning’s message spoke of the dream of peace that began with the angel announcement to the shepherds on that first Christmas night.  Often in our warring world, that ideal seems so far away.  But it is up to us to put it into action anyway.   Here is a comment by famed Catholic writer Henri Nouwen on the same subject.

Henri Nouwen speaks to our time…

The marvelous vision of the peaceable Kingdom, in which all violence has been overcome and all men, women, and children live in loving unity with nature, calls for its realization in our day-to-day lives. Instead of being an escapist dream, it challenges us to anticipate what it promises. Every time we forgive our neighbor, every time we make a child smile, every time we show compassion to a suffering person, every time we arrange a bouquet of flowers, offer care to tame or wild animals, prevent pollution, create beauty in our homes and gardens, and work for peace and justice among peoples and nations we are making the vision come true.

We must remind one another constantly of the vision. Whenever it comes alive in us we will find new energy to live it out, right where we are. Instead of making us escape real life, this beautiful vision gets us involved.

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The Joy of Singing in the Choir

Bering Memorial United Methodist Church Choir from Houston sings during morning worship at the denomination's 2004 General Conference in Pittsburgh. Houston will be the host city for the 2008 General Conference. A UMNS photo by Mike DuBose. Photo number GC04247, 5/7/04
Bering Memorial United Methodist Church Choir from Houston sings during morning worship at the denomination’s 2004 General Conference in Pittsburgh. A UMNS photo by Mike DuBose.

Choir singing is not as popular as it once was except perhaps in black churches.    But my wife and I have always tried to bring people together to sing as a choir for special holidays and events.   JoAnne arranges for and directs the choir while I sing tenor or in later years, bass.

I have always enjoyed singing in choir.   I have been reflecting upon why.

1.  I simply enjoy harmony.   Whether created by multiple vocal parts or multiple instruments in an ensemble,  harmony is a pleasure to hear and even more pleasurable to be part of making.  If you have the ability to sing harmony, it is very fulfilling to do so.

2. Church choir singing gives the added blessing of filling one’s mind with inspirational songs.   I often find myself singing the choir song we practiced in my mind on other days of the week.  There aren’t very many time investments that help put a song in your heart like choir singing does.

3.  There is a great deal of camaraderie in a choir.  Like any other task-oriented small group, it provides a place to belong, some wholesome banter, a growing relationship with fellow group members, and a sense of purpose and identity.   In fact, in a small choir, one feels quite close to your section singing partners as you strive together season after season to sing your part.

4.  For a church choir, there is the joy of presenting the number we have practiced during church service.   Sure, we may be a bit nervous about doing well, but we are most interested that those who hear are inspired by the message we are trying to bring in music.   When we receive feedback that our work has inspired and encouraged others, we are blessed by that.

5.  Singing in choir uses a gift I have.  By contrast, right now I am not using the gift of trombone playing that I have and I feel bad about that.   My ability will slowly deteriorate.  But on the other hand, when I sing in choir, I use my singing ability, I keep up that skill, so that I am ready for new opportunities to use it.  As a Christian, I believe I am accountable for using my gifts for the benefit of others.

6.  Singing in choir expands my knowledge of Christian music.  Many of the songs we learn are fresh and vibrant expressions of our faith that I have not heard before learning them in choir.

7.  Being a part of the choir has been a starting point for invitations to sing in numerous other types of groups.  Men’s quartets are a riot.  I have sung in a massed choir where choirs from several churches joined together, a great experience.   I was asked to sing the solo part for “He’s Alive” on Easter Sunday while the choir provided back-up, an experience I will never forget.   One year our choir was videoed and put their Christmas cantata on television. I have sung for live nativities and on “living Christmas trees.”  All these experiences and more came to me because I sing in choir.

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Wise Parenting Tips

My wife found this excellent article with five very wise observations and parenting tips for families in today’s world.    All of the five are excellent.  I recommend it.

http://www.crosswalk.com/family/parenting/kids/5-ways-you-are-ruining-your-child-s-life.html

The first one about the effect of the priority of amusements for children today is also a reflection of how families think about getting through the moment rather than thinking about the long-term effect of  what is happening.  This is also the case with the lack of  putting priority  on practicing our faith and with not putting priority on time for our marriages.     Perhaps it is up to the older generation who have more time perspective to remind in tactful ways of the long-term view.   But taking the longer-term perspective also needs to become more of a cultural habit of our society than it currently is whether the issue is family finances, raising of children, considering divorce, or professional growth.

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First frost and snow flakes too!

Flowers rescued from the first frost and arranged in a basket that was my grandmother's
Flowers rescued from the first frost and arranged in a basket that was my grandmother’s

As one who dabbles in gardening, I like to keep track of first frost dates.  Here in northern CT, this has been a wonderfully warm fall and we have not even been close to a cold night until the last two nights.  There has been frost in each of them.  I went out on Saturday to do the things that gardeners do on the last day before frost.  I gathered green tomatoes and  cut zinnias, marigolds, daisy mums, Shasta daisies, and a few other flowers for a couple last fresh bouquets.   Never mind that I hadn’t really picked many until then. It’s the sense that it’s the last time I’ll have that opportunity until next year.   More then once I’ve been known to go out with a flashlight to get those last minute items.   In fact, I picked the marigolds in the dark this year after arriving home from a church event.   The first frost seldom arrives on a convenient night.   Like judgment day,  or consequences from bad habits, first frost descends into the schedule just when you wish it wouldn’t.   Blessed are those who have been listening to the weatherman ahead and those with a little margin in their schedule so they have time to do the last minute things.   It reminds me of Jesus’ words concerning his second coming, “It will be good for those servants whose master finds them watching when he comes” (Luke 12:37 NIV 2011).

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Tragedy in Oregon is Symptomatic

Mental health issues and guns do not mix
Mental health issues and guns do not mix

 

 

Name the heroes not the criminal

Our hearts are grieving for the families affected by the tragic shootings in Oregon.   Once again, the ordinary people who were there became extraordinary heroes.     On Facebook, one person nominated as the most courageous person in America the second person in that room who was asked by the shooter if they were a Christian and answered yes anyway.   I would like to know about that true martyr for our faith.   I also applaud the Army vet who charged the shooter.  I pray for Chris Mintz’s recovery from his wounds.   These are the names I want on my lips, not the name of the shooter.

 

But learn from situation

As unpleasant as the task may be, it is important for the prevention of further such incidents that we learn about the perpetrator.    Once again a person whose mental health was questionable had unwise access to guns and used them against innocent people in a place where he would not encounter armed resistance.  He wanted to achieve media notoriety.  I learn from the news of his hatred of Christianity.  I believe he was also from a single parent home, an additional risk factor.  In an eerie parallel to Sandy Hook, his mother was fascinated with guns.  His actions also indicate character issues, lack of respect for others, no compassion, and insensitivity to bloodshed and violence.

 

Mental health is a difficult issue

People will wring their hands and ask, “What can be done?”   Politicians will point to gun control.  Indeed, there is work to be done in the area of screening access to firearms for those whose mental health records are questionable.   But that is a very difficult agenda in a land where we cherish individual freedom.   Families cannot even get help for those whom they know are mentally ill because the sufferer hasn’t done anything illegal yet.   By the time they have it is too late either for them or for others.  Similarly, families and friends of Alzheimer victims are powerless until either the sufferer is hospitalized for other reasons or a caretaker is hospitalized for injuries, even though the ability to choose of their loved one has declined past the point of safety for all concerned.  The issue of mental health in America is much broader than just the gun control aspect.

 

Learning to value the valuable not the familiar

But almost no one will talk about the deeper issues involved here.  Why is a mentally ill person like this shooter thinking that it is more desirable to become infamous than to remain one of the crowd?  Might it be partly because we as a culture give too much adulation and credit to those who happen to appear regularly on television?    Who even knows the names of those who found movements of charity?    Who notices those who head up cancer research?    Teachers are more likely to be blamed for low scores than given credit for dealing with increasing numbers of special-needs students.  Our society does not know its real heroes!   It adores people whose faces simply appear in movies and on TV rather than sorting out those whose character and achievements truly deserve recognition.  There is something very wrong with how our culture rewards people based only on media exposure.

 

Media that considers its effect, not just its click numbers

I have been pleased with the effort of some news organizations to follow the lead of the Oregon community where the shooting happened and attempt to front page the names of victims and heroes while barely mentioning the perpetrator.   This is a wholesome trend because it considers the effects of the way the news is covered.  It counters the usual trend where media is driven by clicks, not by value.   To make a lasting difference, there will need to be leaders in media and government that desire to set a course for the moral uplift of America.   Negative portrayal of Christians in media today has to be contributing to the culture’s sad turn toward ungodliness and rejection of the Christian heritage of our country.

 

Needed: A resurgence of the fear of God

I have also noted before and repeat again that one thing that needs to change in our society in order for the culture of violence to change is this.  There needs to be a revival of the fear of God including teaching about the accounting that each person must give to God after they die.   People who kill others and then commit suicide think it is over.  Jesus clearly taught us that it is not over (John 5:28, 29)!  Our accountability for our actions has just begun.  We may have escaped earthly accountability but we cannot escape God’s judgment.  “We know him who said, “It is mine to avenge; I will repay,” and again, “The Lord will judge his people.” It is a dreadful thing to fall into the hands of the living God” (Heb. 10:30-31 NIV 2011).

 

Violent programming programs brains for violence

Finally, to change the violent climate of our country, we must stop loving violence in our entertainment.   The Bible warns that cultures that love violence will be dogged by it.   “Since you did not hate bloodshed, bloodshed will pursue you” (Ezek. 35:6 NIV). When children grow up watching hundreds of murders on television and committing virtual murders in video venues every day, why should we be surprised if some people on the margins whose ability to separate fiction and reality is impaired and whose ethical intelligence is very low commit real world mayhem?   Is it not probable that if violence had not been pre-programmed in by media habits, then their acting out would manifest entirely differently?

 

 

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The insidious power of unchallenged sin

Our UMC District Superintendent for the Connecticut District, Ken Kieffer wrote a powerful admonition on the destructive power of sin in our lives.   He uses an anaology that communicates well and writes with humor too.   There is much wisdom in this article.

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