I’m looking forward to the men’s Adirondack retreat this coming weekend. I usually spend my time reading, helping some of the boys fish, canoeing and watching birds. It’s a relaxing time. So this coming Sunday, I will be at Forked Lake, God willing, leading the Sunday service at the Men’s retreat while Larry Nemitz will be bringing the message at Community Wesleyan. I will postpone the third one of our Kitchen Table Talks on Relationships, the one on the topic of personality differences, until the following week, July, 29th.
This week’s continuation of the sermon series Kitchen Table Talks on Relationships dealt with the subject of anger in our relationships. I did not have a chance to mention the resource books I wanted to recommend.
One of the books I recommended last week; Making Love Last Forever by Gary Smalley (Word Publishing 1996) has several chapters relating to anger issues as well. Chapter 3, for example is titled “Seven Ways to Unload Unresolved Anger.”
Another small yet very helpful book is Coping with Your Anger by Andrew D. Lester (Westminster Press, 1983) It is available either new or used from Amazon.
A third book I recommend is Overcoming Hurts and Anger by Dwight L. Carlson (Harvest House). The version I have is dated 1981 but I discovered that it is now available in a newer 2000 revised and expanded edition.
Last Christmastime, my sister MarySue set this past Saturday, July 7, as the date we as an extended family would get together to celebrate Mom’s 90th birthday. Even though Mom’s actual birthday is not until August 19, MarySue knew that 4th of July is a good time to get the family together. But there was no way she could know how providential the timing would be. Mom’s health and sharpness are declining as she suffers from advanced heart disease, but right now, even though she was weak, on oxygen and confined to a wheelchair, she was still able to enjoy her birthday dinner and recognize and talk with nearly everyone. Previously she would have known each great grandchild—she told me this time Sammie is number 18—along with their age and sizes—now she remembered the names of about as many as I did. As soon as she saw my brother Allen and I both in the house she exclaimed, “Get the cameras!” So we did. Al lives in Fairbanks, Alaska and we haven’t seen him in a couple years. Several have better cameras than I but I also took pictures anyway so I could put a few on my blog. Since thunderstorms were to pass through, we held the picnic in the new garage that Don and MarySue have constructed not far from the house. As usual, we sang for Mom too, one hymn before the blessing and one hymn after the meal. There was lots of muscle present to wheel/carry Mom as needed from the house to the garage for the meal and back.
I’ve heard Mark O. Wilson speak. It’s a great pastor in a medium sized town in northern Wisconsin and he has many very practical ideas. This article is in Wesleyan Life online. I highly recommend it.
http://www.wesleyanlifeonline.com/article?id=150&src=0
In this morning’s Kitchen Table Talk about Relationships, JoAnne and I discussed how important it is to respect other people. The apostle Peter wrote us in the key verse for the morning, “Show proper respect to everyone” (1 Peter 2:17 NIV). I was asked after the message about the books I recommended. So I thought I would list them here on my blog. I know they each one will be helpful to anyone who reads it.
Recommended Books on Respect in Relationships |
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Author(s) |
Title |
Publisher |
Emerson Eggerichs |
Love and Respect |
Thomas Nelson, 2004 |
Gary Smalley and John Trent |
The Gift of Honor |
Thomas Nelson, 1987 |
Gary Smalley |
Making Love Last Forever |
Word, 1996 |
Marriage has so much potential yet most marriages also experience a good deal of pain on the way to forging a better way. What are some typical causes of this pain? What can be done to bring healing and find lasting satisfaction and love? I just finished planning the series for Sunday messages in July. When I was at family Camp earlier this week, I felt led to focus on human relationships especially marriages during this month. Since marriage is something we don’t do alone, we need the input of our spouse to get a well-rounded perspective. I have invited my wife to join me on the platform for this series for Kitchen Table Talks about Relationships. Like most couples, we’ve had our up’s and down’s in 42 years of marriage. Our hope is that we have learned some perspectives that can be helpful to others. I invite you to join us for this series.
Kitchen Table Talks about Relationships |
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Date |
Title |
Text |
A Suggested Hymn |
July 8 |
Respect is Essential |
1 Peter 2:11-3:8 |
Make Me a Blessing (389) |
July 15 |
Dealing with Our Anger |
Eph. 4:25-31 |
What a Wonderful Savior (531) |
July 22 |
Understanding Personalities Helps |
Romans 12 |
I’ve Found a Friend (521) |
July 29 |
2nd Mile Living |
Matthew 5:38-48 |
Spirit of God, Descend…(86) |
Tonight I had the privilege of attending Houghton night at Frontier field in Rochester. It was hosted by Red Wing’s Board Chairman Gary Larder who is also a member of the Houghton College board of Trustees with me. I met several Houghton friends I have known for many years and chatted with one young alumni named Ryan at the picnic. We discussed what an advantage it is to graduates to have the good reputation of Houghton backing them when they apply for graduate school. He had been accepted into an MBA program and anticipated some sports involvement on the side as well. He felt that the name of Houghton had definitely been important in that process.
The game was a delight too as the underdog Red Wings won a pitcher’s duel over one of Charlotte’s best pitchers. Red Wing hitters managed just three runs and missed some golden opportunities as always happens in baseball, but it was enough as Red Wing pitchers shut out Charlotte. The night was perfect for baseball too – lots of sun, just a slight breeze, and not too hot.
I drove home joyfully with country music blaring, something my wife’s sensitive and classically cultured ears could never endure.
Over the last several weeks, there has been more than one occasion for our church to join in united prayer as a congregation in various different ways. Some of them have been ways that we do not see very often. I thought it might be helpful for me to address in a blog article some of the practices that were in evidence as we prayed together.
Praying for Eric and Magda
This last Sunday, we had the privilege of praying for Eric and Magda and family as we commissioned them for short-term mission service in Romania. As pastor, I asked for many to gather around them in front at the altar rail as we laid hands on them and prayed for them. One might ask, “Why do we lay hands on them?” The short answer is simply that it was done that way in the book of Acts. For example, when Barnabas and Saul went on their first missions trip the Bible says that the church at Antioch laid hands on them. “While they were worshiping the Lord and fasting, the Holy Spirit said, “Set apart for me Barnabas and Saul for the work to which I have called them.” So after they had fasted and prayed, they placed their hands on them and sent them off” (Ac 13:2-3 NIV). IN the NT, the laying on of hands is also done in conjunction with prayers for receiving the Holy Spirit and prayers for healing. Since a successful missions trip can only happen as the Holy Spirit empowers, it was natural also to lay hands on them as we prayed for the coming missions trip.
As we prayed for Erica and Magda I suggested that we all pray out loud at the same time.
I commend President Obama for his decision not to allow our government to deport the children of illegal immigrants. It is a decision long overdue. I have long held that such deportations are gravely unjust, and violations of the golden rule. They are also opposed to the principle of the Scripture that teaches us to treat aliens among us the same as the native born. Thirdly, such deportations are an insult to the spirit of our country represented by the Statue of Liberty. President Obama’s decision is a courageous strike on behalf of justice, compassion and liberty. Never mind that the timing of it was certainly politically motivated. Let’s rise above partisan politics and address the issue. It was still the right decision, finally being made, and should be strongly supported both by all Bible-reading Christians and also by all Americans who are in touch with our great American history which shows the U.S. to be a place where immigrants are welcome.
At Community Wesleyan Church we have a simple six word motto and mission statement: Love God, Love others, Make disciples. Each of the three elements is taken directly from Jesus’ instructions to us. The first two are taken from the two commandments that Jesus identified as the greatest of all the Old Testament commandments. He also declared that these two summarized all the others. The third part of our motto is word for word from Jesus’ great commission to his church found in Matthew 28:19. During the month of June we will be seeking to understand this part of our motto and mission better. Our message series is titled: Our Mission — Make Disciples.
Our Mission – Make Disciples |
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Date |
Sermon Topic |
Scripture |
A Suggested Hymn |
June 3 |
What is a Disciple? |
Matthew 28:16-20 |
Jesus Calls Us (424) |
June 10 |
Why Make Disciples? |
Mark 1:14-39; Acts 1:8 |
For God so Loved the World (164) |
June 17 |
How Can I make Disciples – Part 1 |
2 Cor. 5:11-21 |
Christ for the World We Sing (498) |
June 24 |
How Can I make Disciples – Part 2 |
Matthew 5:13-16 |
The Light of the World Is Jesus (287) |